10 January 2008 par Pascale

I wish you a marvelous year full of gorgeous projects, a year full of love, of joy, with a good health and some challenges accomplished, or some goals achieved at least…

I don’t know for you, but each january, the old habit of making big resolutions wander around and start to play with my head.

Recently, I’ve read a post talking about the difference between values and goals :
Here’s the idea :

To succed with a resolution, it should be coherent with your values, with what you really want. Then, it is easy to compare the interest of spending money on a brand new gadget and saving for launching your very own company, or staying on the couch the whole WE when you dream of doing this marathon. You need to remember what matters most, the rest is only useless noise.

Then I ‘ve sat and thought about what I was dreaming of and how I have done with them till now. Well, hmmmm, not that good. Most of what I have written the past years (like a Trek in Nepal, or having some dazzling magazines cover in my book…) are still in the haze, nothing concrete done. They are still dreams.

“You need to remember what matters most, the rest is only useless noise.”
That’s true and simple, though we do not do it often (we all know we should not take another chocolate bar when we are fighting to get in that bikini again for the summer don’t we ?…)

Each day, knowing what is REALLY important help make decisions faster, stressless and better. Think of all that energy you can spare with saying “NO!” to unwanted project/relation/situation, the kind that doesn’t fit in your value grid !

Another thing to take the plunge and succeed once you know what is important : decide what actions you need to do to achieve your goals, so you’ll have a concrete and reasonable plan. Otherwise you will stay in “one day I will …” dream, with a bad that’s-so-huge-I-will-never-handle-this feeling.

So finally, this year, the “big resolutions stoodge” won’t get me. I will just go on, but better. In a nutshell, focusing and improving within my value grid : Caring of my family and boyfriend, living stressless and healthy, growing up as a make-up artist, sharing (knowledge, laughs, tenderness…).
Meaning I will get that blog more regularly, do lots of photo tests, assist a great make-up artist on a great film (well, hmmm finger crossed), go and dance salsa often to be in a better shape, enjoy more time with people I love.

What about you ? Do you have some goals or challenge ? Are you absolutely against that stupid time of decision making that don’t last till the end of winter and just add to your guilty feeling the next 11 months ? Have you ever take the time to think and express your values ? Please let me know.

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